As Thanksgiving approaches here in the U.S., it brings with it the usual mix of emotions—diets sidelined, gathering with loved (and sometimes not so loved) ones, debates about the holiday itself, and, of course, reflections on gratitude. This time of year, gratitude is everywhere. It's in social media posts, blog articles, and family conversations. And I’ve written my fair share of gratitude pieces too. So, I debated whether the world really needs another one. After all, isn’t the message always the same? Be grateful—it’s good for you.

The truth is, practicing gratitude does have immense benefits for our mental and physical health, but lately, I've found it to be a struggle. It's not that I can't find things to be thankful for; rather, I struggle to feel that deep sense of gratitude as often as I'd like, and even more rarely without a conscious effort. This can lead to self-judgment—What do I really have to complain about?—and that can spiral into a not-so-pretty place.

Overcoming Cynicism with Gratitude

Sure, I could blame the state of the world, the media’s endless negativity, or even my own personal circumstances for fostering cynicism. After all, seeing how poorly we can treat one another breaks my little empath heart. But I don't want to live in or contribute to that negative space, so I keep coming back to gratitude.

Growing up with very little means that scarcity can be my default mindset, making it easy to forget how privileged I am today. When I catch myself slipping into that “lack” mentality, I remind myself to recognize what I take for granted. This simple practice helps me get back on track.

The Power of Gratitude in Everyday Life

I may not be the professional athlete I once dreamed of being, but I’m incredibly grateful for my body and all that it allows me to do. Whether it’s running, surfing, doing yoga, riding a bike, or dancing, I’m thankful for the physical abilities I still have. I’ve made a habit of taking the stairs whenever possible, thinking, "What if one day I can’t climb them anymore?" That day came sooner than expected when I had to use crutches for several months. Suddenly, taking the stairs wasn’t an option, and I missed it. It was a powerful reminder to appreciate what I have now, knowing that taking care of my body will help me stay mobile throughout my life.

I might not live in my dream home, but I’m thankful for the roof over my head. My partner and I have decorated our space in a quirky way with things that truly spark joy and express who we are. Our backyard might not be on a magazine cover, but it is a peaceful retreat, perfect for letting our dog run around, playing games, or sitting by a fire. We even have a beautiful jacaranda tree—one of my favorites. I’m grateful for simple comforts like running water, warm showers, and a cozy fireplace to curl up by.

Finding Gratitude in the Small Things

Though I lean toward minimalism (in part to avoid managing too many possessions), I try to appreciate even the mundane chores. Washing dishes might not be my favorite task, but I’m grateful for the food I have, the dishes to eat from, and the loved ones I get to share meals with. Laundry, while it tries to kill me with boredom, is another reminder of my privilege—I’m lucky to have clean clothes and a washer and dryer in my home.

Sometimes life feels chaotic, and I can't do everything I want to do, but I’m thankful that I get to pursue the things I love. I’m lucky to have family and friends who want to spend time with me, and I try to cherish the moments when I get to do so.

Gratitude for My Dog and the Love We Share

I admit, my dog can be a handful at times. But I remind myself that he won’t be around forever, and the thought of that breaks my heart. I love him more than words can express. In his own quirky way—whether it’s his high energy, chattiness, “murderous” tendencies toward small animals, or his near-death experiences—he makes me laugh and fills my life with joy. And when he’s being a little too much, I come back to a place of love and gratitude.

Self-Compassion and the Gift of Growth

On days when I’m not feeling my best or I get down on myself, I try to remind myself that at least I notice it. I’m grateful that I try. I try to grow, even when it’s uncomfortable. I try to stay open-minded and listen to others, even when we disagree, or their words aren't kind.

And if all else fails, nature is always there to remind me of life’s beauty. The trees, flowers, oceans, mountains, and quiet moments in nature all fill me with a deep sense of peace. I’ve become particularly to birds’ songs, reminding me that as long as they are singing, we’re okay in this moment.

The Power of Gratitude to Shift Our Perspective

As I write this, I realize I could go on and on. But y’all have stuff to do, turkeys to trot, potatoes to mash, gratitude of your own to practice. I started this piece on an emotionally tough day, but now, I feel better. Gratitude has that effect. It’s a practice that can transform our outlook, even when we resist it. So, I’ll keep trying, and for that, I’m grateful.